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Stop Your Divorce! By Homer McDonald The 8 s That Prevent You From Getting What You Want - And How To Avoid Them The over 100 strategies that we're mentioning in this book, most of them are always together and are only separate on a verbal level.
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I want to mention very quickly 8 different traits or s that are always present - always present - in a person who's upset by anxiety or depression, which people almost always are when they're in love and being rejected. Exaggeration 2. Self-pity (unhappiness) 4. Low self-esteem 5. Self-righteousness 6. Submission to feelings 7.
Blaming and escaping responsibility 8. Believing that differences cause problems We have self-talk almost continuously, constantly, and these become beliefs, which become s. And these s are reflected in outward actions. In the strategies of always agree and instantly and happily do everything the mate's way and always act happy, act as if everything in the status quo is practically perfect. These strategies are extremely difficult to do when we are having these 8 different traits. So in order to be able to follow the strategies, we need to have insight into these things. Albert Ellis has talked about that insights are not enough.
We need to do work on top of insight, and that's often true. But if we really have an insight, that almost automatically becomes an action. For example, if somebody hollers 'FIRE!' And we believe them, we don't have to use a lot of will power to get out of that building. We receive an official letter from an attorney that our uncle has died and left us a million dollars, and to please come in and sign some papers, we don't need a lot of will power. That insight by itself becomes automatic action. We're on our way to the attorney's office.
So, here's how the 8 traps work. Exaggeration First of all, we are exaggerating, always without exception, when we are upset. We're calling a desire a need, and it's only a desire. We're also exaggerating the other person's wrongness.
We're exaggerating the degree of their wrongness and the number of things that they're wrong about, and the importance of their wrongness. In terms of extremes, we tend to think we make something all-important or it has no importance. In rational thinking, we say it has some importance. My mate is rejecting me. It has some importance. We don't say it has none. But it's not all-important, either.
What I desire is only a preference. That's all that it is. And, it's my exaggerating the importance of it that makes me drive my mate away.
A woman almost never leaves a man who's not exaggerating. She never leaves a man who she perceives is happy. She never leaves a man that is always agreeing with her. So a man says, 'Well, if my wife says she wants a divorce, I should agree with her?'
Because that immediately weakens her motivation for divorce and leaving you. A woman never leaves a man who's always cheerfully and sincerely agreeing with her. 'You're right. We do need more space.' Or, 'You're right, we should get a divorce. We're just too different.
You're exactly correct,' or whatever. Immediately, her desire for divorce or motivation for divorce is tremendously weakened.
And it's very funny to the husband how, all of a sudden, she becomes very slow about getting the attorney to send the papers and so forth, she stops talking about divorce and everything. It's fascinating to the husband. We're always exaggerating. So we'll take the exaggeration out and have the insight that we are exaggerating. All we are ever dealing with are desires. Donnie Darko Download Dual Audio Avi. Many psychologists use the concept of needing, but that encourages upset. When we don't get what we think that we need, we're going to be much more upset than if we say to ourselves, 'Well, it's only a desire.
That's all that it is.' Guilt People are always feeling guilty. I remember a quote in Mark Twain's The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn. Huck Finn and his companion are watching a community of people tar and feather 2 guys and railroad them out of town.